Let's be honest here, don't you just love pleasing your man? Let me answer that first because I'm not ashamed to say it to your face. I love giving head. I love sucking my boyfriend's manhood and sucking his balls until he comes. I love slobbering his dick up and down as I close my eyes to feel his dick pulsating in my mouth.
Whew, that was hot!
Without further ado, I'd like to give you this blowjob guide, a zillion tips that make your man go crazy, and a no-nonsense advice to make sure he'll fantasize only about you.
Trust me, master your fellatio skills and you won't have to deal with a third party. Men fantasize about it most of the time, and they stick to those who can give them their fantasy. How do I know that? Well, let's just say that over the past five years, a married man has been dropping by my apartment to hook up with me. He says I give good head. The catch is, I'm gay.
So are you ready to blow your man's brain out? I bet you are.
Sucking Dicks Doesn’t Make You a Pig, Get Over It!
But wait, before we dive into the topic even deeper, there’s just one thing that I’d like to get out of the way. It’s about the perception of many people -- especially women -- about fellatio.
I have to be honest. At first, the thought of kneeling down and putting a man’s dick inside your mouth disgusted me at first.
There’s no way I’m going to do that! I remember telling my friends that.
But it’s the only way us gays can please a man, my gay friends would say.
I didn’t argue with them because I knew deep down they’re right. So I tried to imagine myself doing the “nasty” deed, if only to prepare myself when an opportunity arises. But everytime I did, I found myself asking innocent, virginal questions, which did not help at all.
How about the smell? Isn’t that dirty? Will I get sick?
Aside from those questions, perhaps one of the reasons why it took me some time to get into the action is the fact that most people describe blowjobs as “gross” and should never be done. Blowjobs are for sluts and porn stars, and those who do it do not have respect in themselves.
I’m sure that most people can relate to this, but we’re grown-ups now. Sucking dicks does not necessarily mean you’re a slut... or worse, a pig. Get over it!
Why Men Love Blowjobs
I’ve been sucking my boyfriend’s dick for more than five years now, and though I have some pretty interesting theories as to why he loves blowjobs, I want professionals to tell us why exactly. Anyway, here are my thoughts.
First, whether we like it or not, admit it or not, every man wants to be a “macho” man. A husband expects submissiveness from his wife, and it gives him great satisfaction seeing his wife submit to him in the bedroom. Yes, slavery is very much alive!
Second, people are always looking for a validation of whatever prowess, traits, or possessions they take pride in having. In this context, men are always looking for ways to validate their manhood and ego. A good blowjob makes them feel like Superman.
Last, blowjobs can be a sign of love or a deep sense of connection. If a girl is willing to suck her boyfriend’s dick in earnest, this can be perceived as love or admiration. On the contrary, when blowjobs are a one-night-only thing, the act is purely lust.
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How to Give Your Man the Hottest Blowjob Ever
Giving head is not as simple as you think. It’s actually an art. Art, you say? Why yes! It’s not just about unzipping your man’s pants, pulling his penis out, and sliding it up and down your mouth. If you want to give the best, mind-blowing blowjobs, understand that it is a process that should be done with passion and so much gusto.
Let me give you a step-by-step process in achieving just that.
1. Be in the mood.
First of all, condition yourself. You have to want it. You have to be submissive, sexy, naughty, and very into it. Otherwise, it’s not going to work. In my case, I’m always in the mood. My boyfriend is a hot dude, and he has such a nice-looking dick. So when he drops by my place, which is usually on the weekends, I make sure I’m feeling sexy and ready to please him.
Different people have different ways to get into the action. Some would watch porn, and others prefer to cuddle and make out. Find out what’s yours, and use it to your advantage.
2. Give time for foreplay.
I don’t know about you, but I love initiating my boyfriend and I’s intimate moments. He prefers it that way, and he responds better if I do that. I theorize that doing this fills up his ego, making him more and more like a man.
What I do for foreplay is to pamper my man. I give him a back rub, a massage, and even clip his nails. While doing these things, I tease him like a shy girl by secretly rubbing my leg onto his crotch. Of course he knows what I’m doing, and the pseudo-mystery helps increase both our libido. I touch him here and there, and rub his crotch slightly, feeling his hard-on.
So yeah, tease, tease, tease.
3. When you’re ready, slowly and gently scoop your man’s penis out.
Don’t forget the flirty smile and the slutty look while you’re doing it. And please be gentle. Hold his dick like you would your most treasured possession. Be careful with the head and the front part of the shaft because they’re the most sensitive and delicate parts of the penis. Long nails look sexy, but careful not to scratch the Big Ben.
While doing all this, unwrap your man like a delicate gift. Let him lie down on the bed or sit with his arms at the back of his head. Don’t his armpits look sexy? Yes, smell his manhood, kiss his happy trails, then move your way up to his nipples, chest, neck, nipples again, neck again, and then his mouth. But whatever you do, don’t let go of the Big Ben. Stroke it gently, up and down, up and down...
4. When you’ve had enough appetizer, it’s time for the main course.
Once again, give your man the sluttiest of the slutty look while moving down to his manhood. Cup your man’s balls, fix your hair, and then start with the head. Let your imagination take you back to when you were a kid enjoying a lollipop. Close your eyes and let out a slight moan.
When you have enough, stick out your tongue and slide it all the way down to the back part of the shaft. If you’re man is circumcised, toying with the skin at the back just below the head will send your man into paradise. So take your time to suckle it like you would the juice of a fruit. Slobber it back and forth, while you throw sexy glances at your man. At this time, he would be rolling his eyes and calling all the saints in heaven. You’ll love this reaction, naughty bitch!
5. Grab the shaft, and then lick them balls.
Continue the pleasure by concentrating on the balls. Lick them, and do it gently. Go back to the shaft again, and then slide your way back to the balls. I’m sure you can almost see your man’s pre-cum.
6. Put your lips together, create a tight opening, then slide your man’s dick inside your man.
Feel his manhood inside of you, and best of all, enjoy what you’re doing. And to borrow my boyfriend’s words, “it’s the distance” that matters and not the speed. Take your man’s dick as deep as you can. Then, go up and down, up and down, up and down. Do it slowly at first, then make it faster. Then slow, then fast again.
There are two things I’d like you to remember at this point.
First, NO TEETH. To accomplish this, pull your lips inside your mouth like an old woman with dentures. Do not let go of this position.
Second, cup your man’s balls while doing this. I don’t know why, but doing this gives your man a better sensation.
7. Get ready for the explosion.
There are two ways to know when your man is ready to explode. First, when the head of his penis “lights” up, throbs, or becomes bigger. Second, when the shaft is very stiff and hard, and so is your man.
Men love it when you swallow their cum, but if you’re not comfortable with it, you can just spit it out.
[Related: Spit or Swallow, Which Do Men Prefer?]
Some Hot Blowjob Tips for You
It took me some time to master the art of giving a blowjob. So don’t worry if you haven’t absorbed everything I said. These things take time. Just make sure you have enough practice. Anyway, I’d like to give you more tips.
1. Be careful with the sensitive parts.
The last thing you want to do is to scratch or injure your man. The most sensitive and delicate parts are the head of the penis and the front part of the shaft.
2. Though I urged you to be your slutty self, I also strongly urge that you do it with passion.
After all, you’re not a slut and you’re not having sex with a stranger. You’re making love with the man in your life.
I love my man. When I give him head, I always do it with passion. Blowjob for me is what connects me to him. Everytime we’re together, I wish I could give him head forever. To me, it’s more than oral sex. Blowjob is the heart of our relationship. So to keep this heart healthy, the goal is always to give him maximum pleasure and satisfaction.
3. Talk dirty.
Dirty talk increases both your libido, so discard your modest and virginal self and use terms such as “dick,” “fuck,” “suck,” “fuck yeah,” and so on...
4. Unless your man is really smelly, don’t ask him to take a bath.
A man’s musk adds to the sexiness of the moment. Plus, it makes you in the mood. Think about this. Why do some women love sniffing their husband’s soiled clothes? Why is a female deer attracted to a male deer’s smell?
5. Swallow his cum.
This is discussed in this article, so head over to that link to know more about swallowing.
6. Try some tricks.
Whether it is using a prop or slobbering your man’s dick with choco syrup, feel free to try something new. Remember, though, that not all experiments will turn out to be a success. I remember one time, my friend suggested that I gargle with mouthwash before giving my boyfriend head, and so I did but he didn’t like it.
The point is, you should add a little variety to the whole up-and-down and slobbering routine. Change a position, for instance. If you're used to doing oral sex with your man lying down, have him sit or stand up to know the difference. Add a little tingling, cool sensation by putting a little bit of toothpaste to your mouth. Try something new, or better yet, fulfill his sexual fantasies.
7. Watch yourselves in the mirror.
In love hotels, they have mirrors all over the room, especially on walls and on the ceiling. Try watching yourselves in the mirror while you do it. Trust me, you’ll notice a lustful difference.
8. It’s not how fast you go. It’s how FAR you’re willing to go, then back again.
One of the biggest misconceptions I had when I started sucking my boyfriend’s throbbing lollipop is that men want the up-and-down motion to be as fast as possible. But there were a couple of times when my boyfriend would stop me and urge me to slow down and just focus on the “displacement.” That’s my boyfriend’s term that means the distance my mouth should take / cover, from his pay-nis’s head down to the base of the shaft. So avoid the rush. Go up and down slowly, and make sure you devour everything.
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How do I know all these things? I learned from the best. I learned from Jack. You can be an expert blowjob giver, too if you enroll in his classes.
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